W hen parents or other family members have problems, it can be really hard on younger kids in the family. Grownups don't always s explain what is going on, so you are left to worry and figure it out or fill in the blanks for yourself. Sometimes you may even imagine it is something far worse than what it really is. Sometimes, you may feel guilty about it and not even know why, especially since you have not done anything to make the problem happen. This is normal and it feels really bad. .
Some of the problems that kids have to deal with in their family are:
- Alcohol or drug abuse
- Fighting and arguing
- Money problems
- Serious medical problems like cancer
- Mental issues like depressions and anxiety
- Separation and Divorce
- Family member in jail
It is very important for you to know that none of the problems listed are your fault. It feels like it sometimes and people madly even tell you it is your fault, but it isn't.
Your number one job is TO BE A KID.
Some other important things to remember are:
All of your feelings are okay.
You are not alone. Millions of kids experience family problems.
It is okay to ask for help.
Things can be better for you.
And again, you are not responsible for the drinking, drug taking, divorce, or any of the other family problems we have mentioned.
It is very important that you have a safe adult to talk to. It may be a parent, grandparent, counselor, teacher, coach, neighbor or a pastor.
You deserve to have help just for yourself.
If you have a question, feel free to e-mail me at [email protected]